Dildos and Sexual Orientation: What They Do—and Don’t—Mean

Illustration for a guide about dildos and sexual orientation

Using a dildo does not define sexual orientation. Orientation describes attraction and identity; a toy is simply a product someone may choose for solo or partnered exploration.

Sensation Is Not Identity

People of many orientations may enjoy particular shapes, pressure, texture, or vibration. Curiosity about a sensation is not a test of who someone is attracted to.

Choose by Comfort and Intended Use

Compare dimensions, firmness, material information, and cleaning instructions. Start with a manageable size and use lubricant compatible with the toy. For anal use, choose a product specifically designed for anal play with a wide flared base.

Care and Communication

Clean the toy before and after use according to its instructions, dry it fully, and store it separately. If sharing, use a new compatible condom for each person or body area. During partnered use, discuss pace and boundaries and stop for pain, numbness, irritation, or discomfort.

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