Introduce
Attention cuddly cats and kittens: Soft sex is totally trendy and can bring exciting new feelings into bed. What's sometimes called "vanilla sex"—but is often considered boring and stuffy—has a lot to offer. We'll enlighten you about the gentle way to make love!
The secret magic behind soft sex
Soft sex is a sensual way to get physically closer and turn each other on. Many people love soft sex because too rough touches at the beginning of lovemaking can kill the desire. Those who approach their partner gently, on the other hand, can demonstrate their affection in a loving way.
The 4 most frequently asked questions about soft sex
Who is soft sex suitable for?
Many people who focus so desperately on orgasm as their goal during sex are under tremendous pressure. Soft sex is perfect for these people: The focus on tenderness and caressing takes some of the pressure off. You can take the time to concentrate on the lovemaking itself, true to the motto: The journey is the destination.
What do you need for the ultimate soft sex?
A basic prerequisite for being able to cuddle and kiss is enough time. Soft sex isn't meant to be a quickie between the bed and the edge of the table. You need the courage to look at your partner intensely again and observe how they react to your touches and kisses.
Why is soft sex so popular?
Slow and soft sex takes the pace out of intercourse. Essentially, it's about passion and intense sensations between two people. Sensitive people in particular, who desire very gentle touches, will soon find this type of sex hard.
Is soft sex suitable for arousing men?
Of course – it's an outdated cliché that men only like quick, hard sex! Many men long to finally let go in bed and with their partner. Those who feel sexual pressure and want to last as long as possible could end up having the opposite effect and soon struggle with erection problems. You should take this as an opportunity to put aside exaggerated expectations and allow for gentle physical touching from time to time.
Instructions: How to make soft sex work
For soft sex, you should definitely be alone at home, or at least undisturbed. Neither family members nor roommates should be able to disturb you. If that's not possible, a weekend in a hotel is also a good option.
Perhaps you could take a relaxing candlelit bath together beforehand. You can explore each other with your fingertips and pamper each other with caresses.
Pay close attention to your partner's reaction. You should both be able to let go.
You should work your way toward the erogenous zones step by step: It doesn't always have to be the vulva and penis! The neck area, the back of the upper arm, or the inner thigh also like to be touched – find out together which areas are particularly sensitive for you.
By the way, soft sex can continue even after the actual intercourse. Cuddle up and indulge in a few caresses.
Soft sex or vanilla sex can be many things, but it's certainly not stuffy and boring if you approach it correctly. It's about developing the erotic instinct for intense experiences and passionate sex. This often requires the right ambiance, a good mood, romance, trust, and devotion – and you can always provide these things yourself!
Allen
Allen is a company executive. One day, he looked at the masturbation cups all over the room, so he decided to start selling sex toys and write about his experiences.