Sex Position 69: The most famous sex position

69 – most people probably know what this sexy number means. It's no wonder, since both partners climax in this sex position. But how does the 69 position actually work, and what does it have to do with the ancient Indian Kama Sutra? We'll give you some helpful tips for this hot oral sex variation and everything else you need to know about the 69 sex position.

The 69 position is a position for oral sex: Both partners lie either on top of each other or side by side, each facing the other person's intimate area. This allows both partners to satisfy each other orally at the same time. While this position requires a bit of coordination, it is often very arousing for both partners.

If you decide that one of you lies on their back and the other kneels over the first, the person on top needs to be a little more careful not to place their full weight on the face of the person on the bottom or to push their penis too deep down their throat. The variation where you lie side by side is therefore much more relaxed.

Tip: The 69 position is suitable for both hot foreplay and can also be the "main act" of lovemaking.

The 69 position is one of those positions that's perfect either as an appetizer (in the truest sense of the word 😉) or as a main course – you can use it to get in the mood for the rest of the lovemaking or to concentrate fully on it.

Oral sex is a particularly intimate experience, and the 69 position intensifies this even further – after all, you're not only in your partner's lap, but you're also being pleasured by them at the same time, creating a very close bond.

 Therefore, selfishness is completely out of place in this sex position! After all, it's all about experiencing an orgasm together.

And best of all: The 69 position is suitable for couples of all sexual orientations – isn't that great? However, the position really only works for couples: Unfortunately, it doesn't work in a threesome. But there are other threesome positions you can try as a threesome.

This variation is the classic 69 position: One partner lies on their back, the other on top. If both partners have vulvas, this position is usually easy to achieve, regardless of who is on top or bottom. It becomes more difficult if one of you has a penis: If that partner is on top, particularly deep penetration into the other's mouth and throat is possible. If, in the heat of the moment, they suddenly thrust wildly, it can be not only uncomfortable for the partner lying on the bottom, but potentially even dangerous.

Many people find this variation of the 69 position more comfortable, as it's very comfortable for both partners and neither partner is in danger of being crushed. However, you have to be careful where you place your legs – stretch them out or rest them on your partner? Just see what feels better for you – but be careful not to put your partner in a leg scissors position!

Have you ever thought to yourself, "I'd like to give my partner oral pleasure and be satisfied at the same time, but I also want to exercise while doing it, and I love taking risks?" Okay, neither do we, but maybe we've given you some ideas – 69 during standing sex. The stronger partner has to hold the other by the hips and lift them up. Our tip: Take it easy with the 69 😉.

Especially if you're trying the 69 position for the first time during oral sex, difficulties can arise, as it requires not only physical skill but also a bit of multitasking and concentration – after all, you have to blow or lick while simultaneously indulging in your own pleasure. It's not that easy to use your mouth organs correctly when you just want to scream out your pleasure.
If your first thought when trying the 69 position is "Help, I can't concentrate!", it's a good idea to talk to your partner about it. Perhaps the idea of you forgetting which way is up in ecstasy is particularly hot for them.

If that's absolutely not possible, there's absolutely nothing wrong with simply satisfying each other orally one after the other. You can create a particularly intimate experience by still using the 69 position.

Another problem, which is simply inherent in the nature of the game: communication is relatively difficult in the 69 position – you can't speak with your mouth full! Of course, you can briefly interrupt fellatio or cunnilingus to ask how your partner is feeling, but this may dampen your pleasure somewhat. So, agree on nonverbal cues beforehand that you can use to communicate that your partner should increase or decrease the pace or intensity.

And if you like it, you can always let your partner know through your moans – this will also create sexy vibrations in your cunt.

The Indian Kama Sutra also includes the 69 position. It is known there under the name "closed circuit," and the woman kneels over the man (the Kama Sutra exclusively addresses heterosexual cis couples). The name suggests that man and woman complement each other and exchange their energies through oral sex in this sexual position. Thus, the man and woman form a circuit when they have oral sex in this position.

The Kama Sutra also includes a variation in which both partners lie on their sides facing each other. This shows that the Kama Sutra is not just a collection of acrobatic sexual positions, as is often claimed, but also includes simple sexual positions suitable for beginners and those who are not very athletic.

Although bodily fluids are exchanged during oral sex, fortunately the risk of HIV infection is very low. Other sexually transmitted diseases should not be underestimated either. So, get tested for sexually transmitted diseases regularly by your doctor or at the health department, or always use condoms and dental dams during this sex position.

Hygiene is always important during sex, but especially in intimate sex positions like 69. If in doubt, you can start the fun with a shower together.

Instead of lying on top of each other or next to each other, you can also try the 69 position standing up. Warning: This is only for the athletic! One partner lies on the bed and lets their head hang over the edge. The other person now stands in front of the first person and bends over them. However, the blood from the person lying down will flow towards their head, which can be very uncomfortable, so this position is not suitable for longer games.

To make oral sex a little more exciting, you can suck on a peppermint candy or chew spicy gum beforehand. This will have a tingling, cooling effect that you can pass on while sucking or licking. Your partner will thank you.

Of course, your hands don't have to be idle during the 69 position. You can use them to further stimulate each other. For example, you can simultaneously pleasure the clitoris with your tongue and the G-spot with your fingers. For him, the testicles are a particularly sensitive area that appreciates caressing.

As mentioned above, simultaneous giving and receiving can be distracting for some people and delay orgasm. So, if you're using this position, it might be helpful to alternate from time to time so both of you get their fill. Or you can simply use the Kama Sutra 69 as foreplay and switch positions afterward.

It's important for men to be aware of gravity at this point. If a man is on top in this position, there's a high risk of penetrating his partner's mouth too deeply. Caution is key here. Not everyone is into deep throating.

During your first 69, you shouldn't start licking or sucking wildly right away, especially if your partner is still trying to figure out where to connect. Relax beforehand and enjoy the intimate moment together.

One thing's for sure: The 69 position is one of the most popular sex positions. Even the Kama Sutra recognizes it and offers hot tips for making mutual oral sex extra fun. Just give it a try and see if the 69 is for you!