Fisting-A guide to proper fisting

Some people aren't just up for fists, but also between their legs: Fisting is a very specific sexual practice that most people probably associate primarily with hardcore porn.
However, if you enjoy fisting or want to gain some initial experience in this area, it's important to have some guidance to avoid pain or injury. We'll tell you how to go about fisting yourself or with your partner so you can truly enjoy the practice.

The term fisting is derived from the English word "fist" and describes the vaginal or anal penetration of a person with the entire hand. In most cases, another person is penetrated, but you can also fist yourself.

Which orifice the fist is inserted into is irrelevant. Vaginal fisting is just as possible as anal fisting. Both are colloquially referred to as fist fucking. But no matter which orifice you want to explore with your fist: pre-stretching and careful handling are always important to avoid injury!

If you just looked at your fist and the whole thing seems a bit extreme: fisting is actually a sexual practice that is particularly common in porn and in the BDSM and fetish scenes. But even beginners can slowly get used to fisting. We'll tell you how!

Yes, because "fisting" translates to "fisting." Both vaginal and anal fisting involve the use of the entire fist. However, it's important to emphasize that fisting is a sexual practice that requires a high degree of caution, communication, lubrication, and experience. Beginners can also start with fewer fingers or use the "duckbill" position.

Very important: Although the entire, clenched fist can be used, you can approach fisting cautiously. As a fisting beginner, we recommend starting with just a few fingers and then gradually increasing the use of the outstretched hand.

Fisting is often discussed among experts such as proctologists and gynecologists because the practice is associated with several health risks. It is therefore all the more important that you inform yourself thoroughly beforehand and only engage in fisting if you are truly convinced.

Fisting can be vaginal or anal. In both cases, pre-stretching the relevant body area is extremely important. However, anal stretching is especially important when stimulating the anus. The greatest risk when fisting the anus is intestinal perforation, which requires immediate medical attention. As with all other sexual practices, fisting can also transmit sexually transmitted diseases such as chlamydia.

Some medical specialists caution that extreme stretching of the anal sphincter can lead to permanent consequences, as it can cause micro-tears. If the action is too quick, too hard, or too violent, injuries can occur that can have lasting effects on your health. Therefore, please remember to always proceed carefully when fisting, stop immediately if you feel pain or insurmountable resistance, and pay attention to your body's signals.

If you're new to fisting, you should follow these instructions carefully. It's especially important for beginners to take a few precautions to prevent injuries. Fisting is usually practiced between two people, but theoretically, it's also possible to fist yourself. For this, however, we recommend using a fisting dildo shaped like a hand or fist.

If you've decided to try fisting, make sure you're in a quiet environment and that you can be patient with each other. Cell phones, annoying TV shows, or even the doorbell can quickly throw you off balance. Unlike sex, fisting doesn't allow for a quickie, and penetration can only occur when both partners are ready and the passive partner is already in a lustful mood.

If you want to fist your partner, well-groomed hands are crucial. Keep your nails short, and use a nail brush to remove dirt from under your fingernails. To make the practice safer, you should wear thin latex gloves. This will further increase the lubrication properties of the lubricant.

There's no debate on this point; you shouldn't even begin fisting without disposable gloves and lubricant. If you have a latex allergy that also manifests as a condom allergy, you can alternatively use nitrile gloves. However, these should not have a powder coating. Lubricant is essential for both anal and vaginal fisting, and in large quantities. The drier you go about it, the greater the risk of tears during penetration. Therefore, always use fisting lubricant and fisting gloves during fisting.

If you want to practice anal fisting, the passive partner should give themselves an enema beforehand. There are anal douches that clean the anal canal. This not only makes things more hygienic, but also allows you to relax, as you don't have to worry about any fecal residue. Just take the same precautions as you would for anal sex preparation to be on the safe side.

Through gentle erotic massages and prolonged foreplay, you can relax your partner and establish a sexual mood. The more aroused you are, the more intense the sensations during fisting. Vaginal fisting is much more pleasurable when sexual desire is high. Therefore, you can also stimulate your partner's clitoris during penetration to increase lubrication and desire.

Please don't force your head against a wall, and certainly don't force your fist into the anus, at least not without first stretching the anus. Many couples find it helpful if the passive partner is first stimulated in the anal area with the tongue and fingers so they can fully relax.

Under no circumstances should you press your entire fist directly against the vaginal opening or anus. Work your way forward gradually: First, gently penetrate with one finger, then with two fingers, eventually with a third, and finally with four fingers and your thumb. Fingering can be the perfect preparation for fisting.

However, pause every now and then and observe how your partner reacts to the increased intensity. If it becomes too much, stop and find a practice that you can perform in a relaxed manner. If you form your hand into a duck's beak, you can penetrate your partner with five fingers and gently stretch her before adding the rest of your fist, if desired. Ask your partner before increasing the intensity by adding a finger!

If you are one of those who would like to try fisting, we have a few helpful tips for you:

It can't be emphasized enough: communication is key, even in sex (oooh). If you're interested in fisting, you should talk to your partner about it—and accept it if they don't want it. You should also continue to talk to each other during the act and decide on all the steps together so that everyone feels comfortable.

Especially with sexual practices like fisting, where injuries are possible, you should definitely inform yourself thoroughly beforehand – including about risks and possible consequences!

It goes without saying: Washing your hands before fisting is a must! During fisting, your hands, including your fingernails, should be clean.

To further minimize the risk of infection, you can wear thin gloves while fisting. Disposable gloves also have the advantage that, unlike the skin on your hands, they won't absorb the lubricant.

As with all anal practices, the same applies to anal fisting: go to the toilet beforehand.

When fisting, it's very important that the passive partner is relaxed and not tense to avoid pain. Therefore, take time for foreplay and stimulate other erogenous zones like the clitoris or penis during fisting.

The moment your fist enters the vagina is a special one. Even if your partner is very excited, she may tense up at first. Go slowly and stimulate her clitoris at the same time to increase arousal and help her relax. If she wants to stop or take a break, you have to accept that.

If you're one of those people who frequently enters the ring for fistfights, you should treat your pelvic floor to a regular workout. To strengthen your pelvic floor, you can use Ben Wa balls, for example. While there are no studies on the effectiveness of pelvic floor exercises, this way you can play it safe and ensure that your pelvic floor and anal sphincter aren't affected.

You should avoid penetrative sex directly after fisting so that the muscles can relax first.

Very important: If you experience pain or injury, you should DEFINITELY GO TO A DOCTOR. And not to Dr. Faust, but to a proctologist or gynecologist.

Although the vagina is very stretchy (after all, a whole little person can fit through during childbirth), you shouldn't try to tap the cervix directly during vaginal fisting. Instead, start by inserting two or three fingers. If that works, you can add another finger and then try inserting your entire hand, which will then be opened even further using the "duckbill" position.
Important: Always proceed slowly and carefully to avoid tears in the mucous membrane and to prevent the vaginal muscles from cramping.

To ensure that your entire hand can disappear into the yoni, you need a good amount of lubricant—and not just what the vagina produces itself when aroused. "Less is more" doesn't generally apply to lubricant, and certainly not to fisting.

Speaking of lubricant: If you'd like to try anal fisting, you definitely shouldn't skimp on it! The anus isn't as stretchy as the vagina, nor does it produce its own lubricant, so some extra help in this regard is essential.

The mucous membrane in the anus can also tear if you're too rough. To avoid so-called anal fissures and pain during anal sex, you should proceed slowly and carefully during anal fisting, inserting your fingers into the anus one at a time.

Some people may experience sexual stimulation and pleasure from fisting, potentially leading to a fisting orgasm, while others may not. Women, in particular, often report experiencing a significantly more intense orgasm from fisting than from penile penetration. This is primarily due to the stimulation of the inner parts of the clitoris through the vaginal wall with the fist.

However, the ability to experience an orgasm depends on many factors, including personal preference, physical sensitivity, and emotional arousal. Therefore, there is no guarantee of orgasm with fisting.

No - it's recommended to wait a while immediately after fisting before resuming normal sex. The vaginal muscles, in particular, need some time to relax and recover after fist penetration.

It's also advisable to maintain a little extra hygiene. If lubricant or bodily fluids enter the vagina or anus during fisting, it's recommended to clean yourself before intercourse to minimize the risk of infection.

When performed correctly, fisting should not lead to permanent changes or "stretching" of the affected areas. Reason: The body is normally able to return to its normal size and shape after sexual stimulation and arousal. Stretching of the vagina or anus during fisting is usually temporary and should subside after sexual activity, so stretching of the vagina is unlikely.

However, it is important to ensure that fisting is performed safely to avoid injury or excessive stretching. This includes using sufficient lubricant, gradually increasing the stretch, and communication between the participants to ensure no one is harmed.

By the way: Effective pelvic floor exercises strengthen the muscles and help facilitate rapid recovery. Effective recovery requires strengthened pelvic floor muscles as an important factor. People who gently introduce their muscles to increased stress, for example, through the use of special sex toys like anal plugs or dildos, can expect their muscles to return to their original state more quickly than beginners. Thorough and slow training is the key to success here.

Yes and no. To avoid fisting being dangerous, you have to do it right. Simply making a fist and inserting it? Not a good idea, because then fisting becomes quite dangerous. Instead, you should take your time during penetration. Fisting doesn't necessarily work the first time; many couples need five or more attempts before the fist is truly inserted. If you get impatient, it becomes dangerous, because then you'll be overcoming obstacles your body has created for good reason.

Safe sex also plays an important role in fisting. Because, like other sexual acts, fisting carries the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases. So, to avoid danger, it's best to wear gloves. Latex, of course, unless you're allergic. It's not just about germs being transferred from your hand to the vagina or anus. When fisting, you stretch your partner so far that even the smallest bump on the skin surface, a tiny crust, can cause you to injure the mucous membrane.

The anal mucosa is particularly at risk of tearing when the fist first penetrates. This is because it doesn't produce any moisture and relies on your help. What you need is lubricant, and plenty of it. Don't skimp on this; you'll need to keep adding more if it gets too dry. The active partner's glove must be completely coated with a silicone-based lubricant, as must the anus. Water-based lubricants are less suitable, as their lubricating effect wears off too quickly.

This danger also primarily affects anal fisting, as the anal sphincter is the biggest hurdle to overcome. If you go too fast, you'll stretch the muscle, which will lead to pain. Going slowly helps, however; many couples use anal plugs and other toys beforehand to gently stretch. If you feel resistance and pain occurs just by trying, stop and take a break.

Fisting can cause bleeding if the vaginal lining is overstretched and injured. This can theoretically even happen during sex and is initially harmless. However, you can prevent bleeding by taking your time in the vaginal area and always using sufficient lubricant. The passive woman should be maximally aroused before you attempt to penetrate with your fist. This will expand the vagina a bit, and the physical relaxation will make penetration easier.

Some doctors warn that excessive anal sex and anal fisting can lead to fecal incontinence. This means that the sphincter muscle of the anus is no longer able to control bowel movements. Injury to this muscle can result in fecal incontinence. Therefore, it's important to never use force to resist resistance and to react to the body's pain signals when fisting.

Fisting can be a wonderful way to experience intense physical sensations. It involves penetrating either the vagina or the anus with the fist. Fisting toys and fisting dildos also allow for a varied fisting experience.

If your orifices tighten at the thought of fisting, that's okay: You don't have to try everything. Instead, use your fist to rest your head on it in a thinking pose and think about all the other things you can do in bed.